Deanna Walters stayed with her ex-husband for close to nine years, despite his constant abuse. After she left him, he kidnapped her, beat her and nearly killed her.
In a big picture of domestic violence assaults, Walters is just one of many statistics. One in four women will at some point in their life be beaten or abused by someone in their home. About 4,000 of them die each year, with 75% of them getting killed when they try to leave or after they’ve left the abuser.
Photo: Rex Miller/Private Violence
One of my ugliest recollections during my work as a domestic violence advocate at the hospital involved asking for a gift certificate donation from a local restaurant owner for our annual raffle fundraiser. The owner agreed to give me a couple of them, but told me he still placed the blame of abuse squarely on the women who were “dumb enough” to stay with their abusers. I accepted his tax-deductible donations with a straight face; I knew in the long run, it would be directed rightly in spite of him. But I went home and took a shower afterwards.
(Source: theguardian.com, via monaeltahawy)